Helping Orange County Families Heal Since 2009!

Meet Hong Lam

Counseling License # LMFT 84347

As you saw on the earlier page, I just got back from maternity leave. I just gave birth to my second child! I am very familiar with the issues and concerns of mothers who are raising young children. You might be experiencing the stress of motherhood and juggling so many different priorities, that it has become hard to keep up with the daily demands.

You deserve some time for yourself and it is important to prioritize your self-care. It is hard to take care of others when you are having a hard time taking care of yourself.

In Vietnam, we lived a much simpler lifestyle than here in America. We grew up surrounded by rivers and ponds where they had lily pads and lotus flowers. We would paddle in a canoe and on the way pick up snails, catch fish and pick vegetables. We did not have a fridge or even electricity, so we ate food fresh. There were no supermarkets so we did not accumulate things.

When I think about my childhood I experience and feel serene and peaceful. This is the type of environment I want to raise my children in. It is almost a very heaven like environment. Very connected, very spiritual and brings forth a sense of love and serenity.

I like to bring this sense of peace into my counseling sessions. When parents argue with children, when siblings fight, when spouses are at odds, I access this serene place and I help people find their own sense of peace.

If you're home is not turning into what you had hoped for, if you argue a lot with your children or spouse, then please consider getting some professional help.

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About Me

I was 18 years old when I had my first experience in seeing a counselor. As a college freshman, I struggled with balancing family issues and the demands of academic responsibilities. Working with my counselor has helped me increase my confidence, self-worth, and renewed my purpose in life. I was able to graduate from college with a degree in sociology and English. At the same time, I began to volunteer at a crisis intervention hot-line. I listened to many stories from men and women who were sad, lonely, hopeless, anxious, confused, and depressed. I realized that many of us just want to be heard. We want to be understood. We want someone to believe in us. This experience along with my positive personal counseling experience inspired me to pursue a Master’s degree in counseling with an emphasis in marriage and family counseling.

I believe that just as we visit our dentist and doctor to maintain our health, it is also equally important that we see a counselor to maintain our emotional and mental health. When I felt overwhelmed with work and it began to take a toll on my physical health and personal life, working with a counselor helped me clarify my life purpose and what is most important in my life. I believe that it is essential to maintain a healthy and balanced mind and body. Therefore, I will continue to seek my own personal counseling in the future when necessary. I believe that I can only the best counselor possible when I am my best self.

While I have had extensive experiences in treating clients with a variety of issues that range from trauma, depression, anxiety, relationship difficulties, and family problems, my experiences have been that the best treatment outcomes are when I have a trusting, therapeutic relationship with my client. This had proven to be true as my clients would share with me that my kindness and compassion have helped them lower their guards and allowed them to share their deepest and darkest issues, issues that they did not share with their previous counselors.

Many individuals have been exposed to traumatic experiences that continued to impact their adult lives. Being a child of parents who survived the Vietnam War, I have found it a personal passion to help clients who deal with traumas. I have worked with children, teens and adults who have experienced multiple and complex traumas that range from school bullying, domestic violence, traumatic surgeries, exposure to war, and sexual assaults. Being highly sensitive to the client’s particular needs is paramount to helping the client cope with traumas. Some clients may wish to discuss their trauma while others do not. Therefore, I honor and respect my client’s decision on how to best address their traumas in a safe and gentle manner.

Having been an immigrant where I migrated with my family from rural Vietnam to Southern California at age 11, I am familiar with the challenges of adjusting to the new culture and environment. In my work as a psychotherapist, I was able to draw from my personal experiences to work with many immigrant individuals and families who came from countries such Vietnam, Mexico, Thailand, the Philippines, Cambodia, Egypt, and Iran. For many of these clients, they have never even heard of psychotherapy before and thus would display fear and skepticism about the effectiveness of treatment. I have found that by being culturally sensitive, open, and respectful to the client’s unique bicultural experiences, our therapeutic relationships deepened, which eventually led to a successful treatment outcome.

I am a very caring and compassionate therapist where I have been able to use my creativity, patience, sensitivity, and problem solving skills to meet my client’s therapeutic needs. I feel very privileged to be a part of my client’s journey. I have been able to witness many success stories, which further reinforced my commitment and passion to provide healing to people who are struggling.

Hobbies: I enjoy going on walks, hiking, reading, and spending time with my friends and family.